{"id":4921,"date":"2024-06-16T19:00:14","date_gmt":"2024-06-16T16:00:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/?p=4921"},"modified":"2024-06-16T19:00:14","modified_gmt":"2024-06-16T16:00:14","slug":"kesasta-kaikki-irti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/?p=4921","title":{"rendered":"Kes\u00e4st\u00e4 kaikki irti?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Olen joskus kirjoittanutkin kes\u00e4lomahelvetist\u00e4 ja nyt otan t\u00e4h\u00e4n hieman erilaisen n\u00e4k\u00f6kulman asiasta. Monelle on tuttua, ett\u00e4 loma alkaa ja p\u00e4\u00e4ttyy riitoihin kumppanin kanssa, kun ei osata olla en\u00e4\u00e4 liki toisia. Ihminen vaatii rentoutusta ja rauhoittumista lomalla, se on selv\u00e4, mutta miten olla kumppanin kanssa ilman riitoja lomalla. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"685\" height=\"514\" data-attachment-id=\"4920\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/?attachment_id=4920\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?fit=2000%2C1500&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"2000,1500\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"20240615_1944204458861622399974992\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?fit=685%2C514&amp;ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=685%2C514&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-4920\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=1024%2C768&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=300%2C225&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=768%2C576&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=100%2C75&amp;ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=1536%2C1152&amp;ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=1200%2C900&amp;ssl=1 1200w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=800%2C600&amp;ssl=1 800w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=600%2C450&amp;ssl=1 600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=400%2C300&amp;ssl=1 400w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=200%2C150&amp;ssl=1 200w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=685%2C514&amp;ssl=1 685w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?resize=1320%2C990&amp;ssl=1 1320w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?w=2000&amp;ssl=1 2000w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/toivonkide.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/20240615_1944204458861622399974992.jpg?w=1370&amp;ssl=1 1370w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 685px) 100vw, 685px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Meid\u00e4t on helposti opetettu yhteiskunnan tasolla, ett\u00e4 pariskunnan kuuluu lomailla samaan aikaan ja yhdess\u00e4, mutta miksip\u00e4 ei voitaisi kokeilla erilaista l\u00e4hestymist\u00e4 loman viettoon ja lomailtaisikin ihan erikseen ainakin osa lomasta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ratkaisukeskeisyydest\u00e4 on se hy\u00f6ty parisuhteen yll\u00e4pit\u00e4misess\u00e4, ett\u00e4 voidaan mietti\u00e4 todellakin mik\u00e4 asia on se joka toimii ja tehd\u00e4 sit\u00e4 lis\u00e4\u00e4. Ei ole mik\u00e4\u00e4n pakko tehd\u00e4 niin kuin aina on tehty ja kuinka muut odottavat toimittavan. Jokainen pariskunta voi tehd\u00e4 lomastaan juuri oikean n\u00e4k\u00f6isen ja pit\u00e4\u00e4 jopa v\u00e4limatkaa toisiinsa n\u00e4hden. Itseasiassa pikku v\u00e4limatka ja aika tekev\u00e4t ihmeit\u00e4 suhteelle, kun molemmat saavat toteuttaa itse\u00e4\u00e4n juuri sill\u00e4 tavalla, josta lomassaan nauttivat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Retriitit ovat loistava tapa irrottautua arjen py\u00f6rteist\u00e4 ja ainakin itselleni juuri viikon retriitti mahdollistaa rauhan niin lapsista, kuin kumppanistakin. Kumppani voi sitten harrastaa omia juttujaan kalastuksen tai mets\u00e4styksen ym.parissa. V\u00e4limatka mahdollistaa my\u00f6s huikean hetken, jolloin seksuaalinen intohimo voi my\u00f6s kasvaa kumppania kohtaan ja kotiin palatessa voi vilttikin heilua hieman tiiviimp\u00e4\u00e4n tahtiin, jos n\u00e4in haluaa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Meist\u00e4 jokainen voi tehd\u00e4 itsen\u00e4isi\u00e4 valintoja ja v\u00e4hent\u00e4\u00e4 n\u00e4in konfliktien mahdollisuutta, mik\u00e4li se parisuhteessa on hiert\u00e4v\u00e4n\u00e4 elementtin\u00e4.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mik\u00e4li kuitenkin jostain syyst\u00e4 loma koituu parisuhteen kohtaloksi, on hyv\u00e4 muistaa, ett\u00e4 terapia-apu ei ole kaukana, vaan sinulla on mahdollisuus napata vaikka Toivonkiteen matalan kynnyksen keskusteluapua. Yhteystiedot alla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">TOIVONKIDE OY <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Maria Haanp\u00e4\u00e4 <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-jetpack-contact-info\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-jetpack-email\"><a href=\"mailto:toivonkide@gmail.com\">toivonkide@gmail.com<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-jetpack-phone\"><a href=\"tel:+358400971319\">+358400971319<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Olen joskus kirjoittanutkin kes\u00e4lomahelvetist\u00e4 ja nyt otan t\u00e4h\u00e4n hieman erilaisen n\u00e4k\u00f6kulman asiasta. Monelle on tuttua, ett\u00e4 loma alkaa ja p\u00e4\u00e4ttyy riitoihin kumppanin kanssa, kun ei osata olla en\u00e4\u00e4 liki toisia. Ihminen vaatii rentoutusta ja rauhoittumista lomalla, se on selv\u00e4, mutta miten olla kumppanin kanssa ilman riitoja lomalla. Meid\u00e4t on helposti opetettu yhteiskunnan tasolla, ett\u00e4 pariskunnan &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/?p=4921\" class=\"more-link\">Jatka artikkeliin <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Kes\u00e4st\u00e4 kaikki irti?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":115321067,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"{title}\n\n{excerpt}\n\n{url}","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"_wpas_customize_per_network":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4921","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p8h2wI-1hn","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4921","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/115321067"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4921"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4921\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4921"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4921"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/toivonkide.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4921"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}